February 9, 2006: I met a cute girl at a clothing store downtown near Carbon market. She started flirting and I took the bait.
Name: Samantha Michelle Muñoz, 19 years old.
She’s a high-school graduate, personable, strong-minded, has fair English, likes to sing and says she wants to be a teacher.
February 14: Valentine's dinner at the rooftop restaurant on top of Holiday Plaza Hotel. Afterwards, Sam took me home to meet the family. They live in Barangay Duljo Fatima, Cebu City; , parents and grandparents and brothers and sisters (12) in a small house.)
Most every night about 6:30pm I would go to Sam's shop and wait for her to get off work, then we'd go out to dinner. Then she went home. Courtship, Filipino-style.
February 28: I invited Sam to move in with me. She will think about it and ask her family and friends.
March 9: She's been considering my offer to live together, and said yes. Her current plan is to quit her job next month (April) and then move in.
April: Sam says she wants to put off moving in until May.
I went traveling in Mindanao, then to the US.
May 17: I arrived back in Cebu from USA.
May 18: Sam came over to dinner and we talked. She had a plan go to Toledo City (across Cebu Island) the next morning, to ask her grandmother for permission to move in with me.
May 19-May 23: Her text messages became few and far between.
I went over to her house one night and successfully retrieved the MP3 player I had brought her from the USA. She didn’t want to talk about what’s happening.
I went to her shop the next day and tried to get her to talk a little after work, but she refused.
June, July: no communication.
August 1: She started texting me again.
August 6: She came over and we talked a long time. She told me that back in May her grandmother in Toledo had said ‘No’; but a few days ago had called again and said its OK for Sam to move into my house. So that’s what she wanted to tell me…she's ready now.
The family and I went to Abuhan Dos for dinner. We agreed: Sam would move in. I said I’m interested in marriage, but not ready to make a promise at this time.
At the end of dinner, Sam’s mom Melodyne said she wants Sam’s brother Jun2x to move in also, temporarily, as a chaperone, for awhile. That was a surprise, but... OK.
“Ur welcome my dear im so exitd this Tuesday"
August 15: Sam and Jun2x moved in. We went shopping for a portable bed and groceries. Had a good day, a fine start to this adventure.
August 18: I took Jun2x to the dentist for a cleaning, some fillings and an extraction. Jun2x is a great kid, I really like him.
August 20: The whole Munoz family came over for a big lunch. We ate, her folks checked out my place, the kids played, I took pictures and video clips, pretty fun.
August 22: Jun2x went back home (Sam and me now alone.)
Past few days sam has been talking less….just wants to watch tv all day.
We talked. “You know chris I try my best. But I don’t have experience as a wife, as a live-in, its my first time.”
We agreed best thing is for her to go home. She packed her things, and went home in a taxi
“Thank u 4 everything u do to me sorry im not the perpeck grl that u looking bye….."
We met at Jolibee and talked about what had happened.
I said I feel terrible, I don’t understand what happened. What went wrong?
She said “I don’t have any experience before being live-in / wife. I love you chris but I’m shy."
Aug 29: Sam to my house, I gave her an engagement ring.
September 4: Sam moved back in.
A little better this time.
September 7: I took Sam to the dentist for a cleaning, some fillings and an extraction.
We talked more, but she mostly kept her distance. What's going on inside that beautiful Filipina head?
September 19: Sam moved out.
Visited Sam in Tagunol, Inayawan. Met her aunt Vena & Lola Vicenta.
She’s building her own room attached to Vena’s house. She said she hadn't sold the ring.
“hi! Its m sam are t ok! I want to say sorry the all ive dne to u sam.
“that all thank u nce to see u
October: We met again at Jolibee, then she came over, once, to do a print job for her cousin.
November 5: We met one last time at Jolibee across from Metro Gaisano.
I was CRAZY, BONKERS, GOO-GOO, NUTSOLA about her.
But.... we're done now.